Why men date other marrieds?
Talk about a loaded issue that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be burdened with troubles, cause heartache, and other problems. Plus you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety thing, funds, age difference, faith education, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I shall define an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, dating married men.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek affairs. I am conserned generally though it is only the human state, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and exciting, and sex makes us flee the world for a small period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone are able to switch the desire on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos the world has erected against extramarital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the rage of not only their family, but society also. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your relatives or anybody else? You would need to minimize the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major group, very big really. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they are comfy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to think about. Your savings are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair sometimes solves the trouble while keeping the marriage intact.
Neglect, sadly this is a frequent reason I fear. One or the other, generally the gentleman is sexually neglecting his wife for a large humber of reasons. As a male I actually am thankful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us males of romance, making them “milf wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is not here, maybe it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Could be we have just grown distantly, our relulas interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for financial gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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